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The Effect of the Accident

The Effect of the Accident

The blog written with one hand (excuse any errors)

I knew that it was terribly painful and that there was lots of blood. That along with the presence of paramedics and ambulances certainly gave the impression of a serious situation.

Arriving home later on, obviously I looked injured enough for my four year old to feel the urgent need to wail “Daddy, go upstairs!”

After my bike accident last week which left me with all but a fractured nose and what seems to be a couple of torn  ligaments but thankfully nothing much more than that, I have since had some interesting encounters with people who have commented on how they were affected by the incident.

One woman, who was at the scene when it happened that morning, said that as a teacher she found that she could not concentrate on her teaching for the entire day.

A child who was in a car driving by the scene and briefly witnessed the on goings ended up acting out intolerably both at school and at home. It was only later at bedtime that his parents managed to sit him down and got to hear that he was deeply concerned about the accident. I would imagine that this could well be considered as a major life event for this child.

A lesson to be learned

And such is life, adults often have the ability to recognize and connect tough emotional experiences to a specific scenario and take necessary actions to help themselves. While children will often act out emotionally or behaviorally, intolerably or even obnoxiously, at times for extensive periods and we as adults expect them to make up a correlation when we ask them “what’s the reason for this terrible behavior?”

Point being, a child cannot and should not be expected to be able to identify the relationship between his/her behaviours and that of which is transpiring around them, in their environment.

At times, when it’s a case of a child randomly acting up, a basic “what’s going on for you today? Did something happen? Is something going to be happening shortly? “Will likely give you what you need.

But of course in many cases, especially when the acting out is a constant, the ordeal the child may be experiencing will not be so obvious to others. In such cases it will be up to those involved, parent, therapist, counselor or educator to utilize real skill and tact to prompt information that can actually lead somewhere.

In the meantime on another note, thank you all for taking an interest, I’m recovering surprisingly fast and well, thank G-d.


 

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